Superchilled's guide to the perfect life

Everyone has their ups and downs, but for the perfect life all the time, here are some superchilled tips...

Friends: It's the old adage, you can't pick your family but you can pick your friends. Pick them well, and they'll be there through thick and thin - but you need to maintain them like any good relationship.. see below... Having lots of friends is great - but the quality of friendships is much more important than quantity...

Relationships: whether it's a lover, friends, or family they all take some work to maintain- but like a good garden - they are fantastic if you do some regular maintenance. Regularly keeping track with calls, coffees, texts and or emails (let's not get obsessed) is important to keep in tune and keep them in tune. Go out of your way more than you already do for your friends - and don't expect things back.

Money: It certainly can buy you a little happy, despite what they say. Of course if you have a trust fund or a wealthy partner you may have less issues here, but you never know when they might run out... for those of us who do have to work for it- it's best to do something you really enjoy, something that makes you feel great while you're doing it and ideally something that warms your heart too. If every day at work you're thinking 'remember the money' to get you through - then it's time to look at alternatives. Don't ever start over again in a completely different field - move sideways step by step until you find yourself in a whole new arena but with the same or more pay!!

Sex: It's fantastic, but overrated. The thrill of the chase is as much fun but ultimately intimacy is best and leads to even better sex. When you do have sex - focus on the other person more than yourself, when they feel good they're going to want to do more things to and with you... if it becomes a one way street - get them to read this, and until they do, go somewhere else. If somewhere else you find yourself with more than one person and sex is happening - consider it a rather fun source of exercise - perhaps you can train together for a marathon, or two.

Intimacy: The trick here is in determining who has access to your inner self. The right person is like the perfect cleaning lady - they leave that inner self cleaner, more organised and in better shape then when you left it. But finding the one to trust with your keys is the challenge.

Travel: If you have more than 4 weeks saved up in annual leave - then you're not living. Take a holiday at least every 6 months - even if it's just a week or so away from work (setting mobile phones to ignore all work calls + emails). Make sure you have planned to meet up with friends - old and or new - somewhere in your travels. When you're on holiday - wild wednesday becomes wild every day - extend your limits - new people, new experiences, and refer back to the sex section now...

Health: You don't realise how good it is to have good health, until you lose it. Listen to the mainstream health recommendations (beware those who will make money out of their specific recommendations) treat your body as your temple and spend time keeping it maintained. It's okay to be a bit vain yes, but don't obsess - leave that to the people around you. Eat a mix of things, avoid all forms of smoke and exercise every day. It will help with sex too!! Yum.

Religion: If it makes you really feel better, then go for it - if it causes you nothing but stress - then reconsider. Most religions are intolerant of homosexuality, so I tend to be intolerant of most religions. No one really knows if there really is an afterlife - so consider this the only one you have - make it a good one!

Oh and the final piece of advice - be very careful about who you listen to for advice - but when you trust them - treat it like gold.

Good luck!!