Where is it okay to be semi-naked?
This is speedo ettiquette 1.01, funny (45seconds : work safe)
Monday, 30 April 2007
I said I'd get to bed early - but that was meant to be pre-midnight... oh well.
Here are some images (above) from Sunday afternoon at the bakery. Great time as usual, then 'The Lives of Others' at the movies - a German film certainly worth a look, powerful and moving. Thanks guys for a great afternoon / evening. Bed is calling - and really loudly - so I'm off. The week begins again! I need to be awake for it.
Saturday, 28 April 2007
Why do straight men have so much trouble spending time together?
Today’s Sydney Morning Herald ‘Good Weekend’ explores 'The Man Date', based on the New York Times article from earlier this month. (click here for the full NYT article) It seems that 90% of the sober male population has difficulty socialising amongst themselves if it doesn’t involve some kind of business or sport. Going one-on-one with a man for a meal, a walk in the park, to see some art or cinema is fraught with stress.
The concern about being perceived as gay is one of the major complications of socializing one on one, many straight men acknowledge.
Cooking for a friend at home violates the man date comfort zone for almost everyone, with a possible exemption for grilling or deep-frying. "The grilling thing would take away the majority of the stigma because there is a masculine overtone to the grill," Mr. Discher said.
I personally find the interaction I have one on one with my male and female friends some of the most rewarding times I can spend, and I very much look forward to them. I guess I don’t have to worry about people thinking that I’m gay, nor that I’m trying to seduce the women. It engenders a relaxed and more open environment in which anything can and will be discussed, barriers broken, taboos challenged...
Maybe we should all invite a straight male friend for a one on one dinner and introduce them to a whole other world…
I don't have shares in the company, I don't drink the stuff, and I even recommend that my patients don't drink it, but some of the ads are priceless, as is this oldie but fave from way back. Catchy too - you'll have the tune going through your head all day. It's a graphic design thing this one, so no cute men to be seen I'm afraid.
I thought that was only something for underwear ads, mind you one of them was cute, but still, it's just wrong.
Friday, 27 April 2007
Thursday, 26 April 2007
Sponsors for actual real prizes for superchilled race around the world are more than welcomed. Location 8: coming soon...
I met Lynnette through her husband, the cute runner who I met at the uni pool (as you do). I didn’t know she existed until at least a month or so of meeting her hubby, when she came with him to breakfast at my regular Friday breakfast café near the beach. She was loud, opinionated, hated living in Australia (she was from the States), hated the beach and I was the first gay guy she had knowingly met. She was homophobic, somewhat religious, and one of the few people on the planet who really annoyed me (Craig will tell you a story about that…). She was an American other Americans cringed about, and Australians rolled their eyes about. But she didn’t go away. (Some times I wished she would). We did things together with them both, she came to gym and the pool, she became a breakfast regular on Fridays. We all went away on skiing weekends, and embarked on various adventures together.
As much as she annoyed me, she also challenged me. She made me analyse my reactions to things, my reasons for my decisions that I had made, and I guess as she challenged me, I also challenged her. Where other people would have given up and walked away – she persevered to find the root of any problem, and then analysed it and sorted it, regardless of barriers that may have been crossed or issues that may have arisen from it. Over time we both changed. We have become close and discuss all manner of topics very openly, and regularly. She has become my gym buddy of sorts, though she still avoids swimming almost as much as I avoid running. As a journalist she has now written articles supporting gay relationships, she has started to enjoy Australia, begun to enjoy the beach (although she is still a mountain girl), parted ways with her husband, won journalism awards, and become friends with more of my friends – gay and otherwise – as I have come to know more of hers. her blog is listed in my 'blogs to watch' - Along the way - I don’t see her husband much any more, I guess neither does she, but of the things that you can predict in life, that Lynnette would be the one staying here with us as she prepares to move on to a new part of her life, was not one of them.
She has become a friend where I was not expecting a friend, a close friend who will be missed.
I just hope she makes it to Tasmania without any car doors popping open.
Tuesday, 24 April 2007
My favourite rainy day thing is to go swimming. I remember lazy summer days as a kid on school holidays we'd go camping on the Myall Lakes about 3 hours north of Sydney (although in those days it was more like 6 hours). I loved when it rained. We'd race out into warm lake and sit on or in whatever we had that floated, the rain pouring and reducing the waves on the lake to an enforced calm. Siblings and cousins all out in the water playing and splashing about. There was a silence that came with the rain - the lake would be empty of boats and water skiers, the water glassy, just the noise of us in our own world. Sometimes I'd go windsurfing on these days - it felt like you were the only one on the planet, gliding silently through the water...
And now I'm off for swim training.
I hope it pours.
What's YOUR favourite rainy day thing?
Monday, 23 April 2007
The next leg of superchilled race around the world kicks off shortly. Be ready.
I'm not a coffee drinker, but realise most of the rest of the world is, and on a Monday morning after a great weekend - it's time for that macchiato, espresso/short black, long black, latte, soy latte, cappucino, flat white or some kind of permutation or combination of the above, to kick start your day.
The week is underway - enjoy!
Sunday, 22 April 2007
Saturday, 21 April 2007
As Superchilled Race Around the World continues, we find ourselves in Location 6, above. Again, the first correct person to identify where the photograph is taken and the most creative correct or incorrect answer get the awards. Bonus points this time to some historical background of the building in question.
You can see the larger version by clicking on the image - which might give some clues. Good luck!
I recall as a young teenager going to see Coolangatta Gold (in the cinema at Coolangatta no less) and The Man from Snowy River, quite specifically (both Australian movies). I remember being totally captivated by them. I wanted to be (or be with) Joss McWilliam - the cute brother in The Coolangatta Gold. The scene in the queenslander house in the banana plantation with the rain on the tin roof and semi clad athletes, is etched into my memory. As is the scene in Snowy River where Tom Burlinson is on top of the hill with the horse (also in the rain) and has these amazing quivering lips. (Sigrid Thornton may well have been there too, but you'll have to ask my brother.)
Friday, 20 April 2007
- Being nice to strangers on your way to work.
- Looking at the workload you have upon arrival and realising that you could be in a queue at social security.
- Really REALLY enjoying that coffee break mid morning, and thinking about your weekend plans while you're on it or making them if you haven't got some already because they'll be needed later. Ideally make sure the plans start as soon as work finishes.
- Working exceptionally hard in the remainder of the morning, so you feel better about being slack later.
- Organising meetings and appointments and all kinds of work for NEXT week, because at least it looks like you're doing work - even if you're not quite.
- When it all just seems too much, you have your weekend plans from earlier to look forward to - savour them, think about how soon they will become reality and how good you will be feeling THEN.
- Kissing your assistant/ cleaner / someone who works for you in some way on the cheek (elsewhere if you feel like you need a new job, and not in a hurry) to thank them for putting up with you all week, or just because they're cute - if you're lucky.
- Buying dinner to eat in or take away - kitchens are NOT friday utensils.
- Loads of sex. You don't have to get up early - you might as well have something to savour or re-try while you're lazing under the sheets well into Saturday morning...
Posted at 12:12 am
Thursday, 19 April 2007
We're almost at the end of Leg 5 of the race... Leg 6 is about to get under way (and may well be a challenge). Can you create a better entry and beat Jeff d'Vancouver to the most creative entry before this leg is run? See below for details.
Wednesday, 18 April 2007
Craig describes it as representative of his love life, Jeff describes it as " a ship approved by the Howard government as a seaworthy vessel that has been specially commissioned for transporting refugee claimants back to their countries or origin." (and wins the most creative prize - given it is an election year, and Mr Howard just has to go.) But the overall winner is Andrew who correctly identified it as the Maheno shipwrecked on Fraser Island, Australia, (just before a dingo stole his baby).
Tuesday, 17 April 2007
Monday, 16 April 2007
Sunday, 15 April 2007
Posted at 11:35 am
Friday, 13 April 2007
Thursday, 12 April 2007
Don't know the race details? Click here.
On the positive side - it meant I was sitting in a seat with extra leg room - and in economy class on any plane - that's a very good thing. (especially if you have legs as long as mine)
Oh, yes. We're home!
Lots to post. Keep tuned.
Monday, 9 April 2007
It's Monday. We're in not old, not middle aged, but New Plymouth, having driven from the east to the west coast of New Zealand today, and explored quite a bit. The most adrenaline pumping part was driving to the end of a dirt road in a kind of wilderness area, the narrow and steep cliffs besides us weren't the adrenaline pumping part - it was the guy at the end who seemed to be pissed off that we had driven into his property. We had turned around realising it wasn't where we wanted to be... he came up to us yelling and screaming and even through a rock at us (hitting the car) as we left... scary stuff - and we still don't know quite what it was that we did wrong... were going to report him to police - but well, holidays are too short and we decided to move on - something it seems he won't be doing for a while. The scenery has been spectacular the weather amazingly warm and sunny. Last night we were camping - tonight it's a backpacker (I'm under the steps in the internet box!). So it has been quite varied. Tomorrow we'll explore Mt Egmont (volcanic mountain) and head back towards Wellington... see how it goes. Everyone keeps apologising for the rooms with only a double/queen and single etc... ie not 3 separate beds... poor us - how will we cope?
pictures from this Easter...
Watch this space....
OK it does seem competition is a bit hard for this one. The pic below shows the beach in a European country... it IS Spain, but it is mainland Spain.... do we have any takers? (see below for details) (my time is running out here and Bryce needs the pc)
Sunday, 8 April 2007
Friday, 6 April 2007
We're off to the windy city of Wellington, the Capital of New Zealand for a 6 day Easter escape. Our good friend Bryce has been studying there since January and we promised to visit, so this is it. We have a hire car booked, a map, our camping gear packed (although we'll probably mix it up with solid walled accommodation from time to time) and not a lot in the way of plans. Everyone has been cringing when I say Wellington - but I really liked it on a fleeting visit some years ago and in the end we'll be touring the southern part of the north island much of the time anyway, to fill in gaps from that 4 day north island blitz all those years back.
Here's a stolen moment from a serene Bryce.
Thursday, 5 April 2007
The superchilled race around the world is heating up. We have a winner - the runner up yet to be finalised - but the quality of the entries has been high. Peter of Amsterdam pipped Geoff at the post with the correct answer (see it in the comments), Geoff fought back with GPS coordinates, postal address, map link and official opening details, after a technically incorrect first entry. That said, he is at this point, the leader in the runners up category, but can you find a more creative and entertaining incorrect or late answer?
See the photo of the location below. A new location will be posted early Friday morning Sydney time (think 1am-ish) for Round 2 of superchilled race around the world.
A photograph of mine from a location somewhere on the globe will be posted on superchilled.
The first person to correctly name the location (most accurately and specifically) wins.
Most creative guess is runner up.
Both winner and runner up will be posted here on superchilled.
Over the coming weeks and months scores will be tallied to also provide a series winner.
Below is the first location photograph.
May the world be with you!
Tell me where this photo is taken and be the first winner.
Wednesday, 4 April 2007
I spoke with a former monk, "Scott," today. After leaving the monastic life Scott did a 180 and sex became a major part of his life. He had sex with multiple partners, and he very much enjoyed it. But ultimately he found it was too unbalanced for him. He’d left one extreme for another. Now he's embarking on a more settled life with just one partner, and he seems very happy with his choice.
As gay men we have the possibility of a whole other world than the yellow brick road that society expects of our heterosexual counterparts. If you're outside the norm on being gay - well, you might as well make up your own rules on everything else too?
While it's not always the case we have generally less entanglements with the whole sex thing. One or two or three partners in sex are often discussed and many of you will know of relationships where there are three partners living together. I personally know of 2 (although they're not close friends of mine), and while it's not for me, at least not right now- it does seem to work for them.
But bring up the topic and there will be a wide variety of reactions. Some people will claim the more the merrier, others find the whole idea abominable, some are curious but not quite sure how to go about doing it. Are you thinking less or more? Or are you still unsure?